Bossess With Fangs or Vibrations With Fangs

This blog will discuss:
1) The unknown causes of conflict with supervisors;
2) The steps for releasing the conflict;
3) How to relieve work stress.


Last week I received an email from a friend who is having challenges at work.  He relayed an email sent to him from his supervisor, which was rudely worded, demanding a set of engineering drawings from him in a short amount of time that everyone long ago agreed were unnecessary.  I took a deep breath and hopefully exhaled one hundred percent of my former work life.  As my friend is a conscientious, thoughtful and spiritual person, I also felt relief that people can be good and still be mistreated by management.  In other words, I was not a bad person because I had a long string of bosses, who could have successfully auditioned for the role of Frankenstein just by being themselves.  By harnessing the law of attraction and following the below steps, I have eliminated this dynamic from my life.

When dealing with work place conflict, the first step is to understand that the goal in all our endeavors is to take the path of least resistance.  The way we gauge our path is by our emotions.  As much as possible, we should feel like we are swimming downstream instead of upstream, or we should feel good; we should feel ease and flow.  When we have that upstream feeling or feel unpleasant, we need to find better feeling thoughts.  The key is to remember it is your emotional journey that matters.  Your emotions determine your personal vibration on a given issue.  When your vibration rises to a higher level, then you float towards your natural abundance.

For example:  Your boss sends you a preposterous email stating several things that aren’t true and starts blaming you for some long held guideline that they originally established, but now have decided they don’t like anymore.

To cross the threshold into the emotional journey where your freedom lies, you must accept that it doesn’t matter who is right and who is wrong.   The truth is irrelevant and your attempts to demonstrate that you are upholding the truth do nothing but dig a grave. Yes, sad but true  .... where is Abe Lincoln when you need him. You must accept that you are not there to show what needs to be fixed and fix it.   Let go of how wrong your boss is because its contaminating your mind; it is an upstream thought. See the following Youtube for a good explanation of this: www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvBhqsa_1zE&feature=related

As someone who has dedicated my life to spiritual pursuit,  it was hard to accept  that honesty, kindness, and charity, did not lead to a good life.  In my old thinking, those who did good in the world built good karma and those who did evil built bad karma, resulting in a good or bad life respectively.   We see the same kind of logic in the Christian traditions with:  “Your reap what you sew.”  Rather than advising people to let go of concepts they may hold dear, I advise that they see them peacefully co-existing with new concepts.   I have found that goodness and virtue are irrelevant in determining what manifests in life.  I am not recommending that they be discarded.  Virtues have significance, just no creative power. 

Moreover, for those who have studied leading edge methods of creation, I have found that visualization, affirmations and prayer take a back seat in creative power to the power of the second by second stream of thoughts washing through us, usually unobserved.  When I began watching, I became aware of a tsunami of negative thoughts:  reruns on past occurrences that were usually belittling in some way, judgments of others, complaints about my current situation.

In order to swim downstream, you must find pleasing thoughts.  In the case of my friend, workplace conflict is a repeating pattern for him, to the point where he has been let go numerous times.  Since the condition of our lives in this moment shows us what our thought patterns have been previous to now, I know that he has been regurgitating the past.  When something hurtful happens to us, we tend to remember it, ponder it, defend it, and try to figure out who is right and who is wrong.  All this does is create more of it. 

The healing of this is threefold: 1)  Welcome the negative thought, or allow it to peacefully exist, side by side with you for a few moments.  For a detailed explanation of welcoming see the "Terms" section of:  www.deborahbird.com,  2)  Then focus on some aspect of your boss that is pleasing, however small:  He is a good writer, his communication is clear, he keeps his office very neat, I like his taste in briefcases.   You can then begin to do a focus wheel.  See for detailed description of how to do a focus wheel, see blog dated 8/4/10 “Burning Up The Gap”.  3) Look at the day from the perspective of a sculptor.  Every day you wake up and you have the opportunity to sculpt a perfect life.  In this case, the clay is your thoughts. Everyday when I wake up I say:  “Today it is my primary intent to focus on things which are pleasing to me.  By appreciating my life and all the beauty in my environment, I am accessing an incredible power that has the ability to sculpt a beautiful future for myself.  I use to participate in sloppy creating by letting my thoughts run wild in remembering, justifying or figuring out the past. Now I see them as incredible creative tools and today I will use them properly.”  Now, according to Abraham-Hicks, you have exchanged the power that creates worlds for the peanut gallery that wasn’t helping you anyway.  By applying these processes, you will reach the place where you have a positive, nurturing work environment.

When conflict arises, it certainly warrants an attempt at discussion and understanding.  If your boss’s lights are on, there will be a meaningful exchange and you will hear one another, and there will be movement.  If their lights are not on, you will get bizarre statements in response to your questions, your boss will blame you, talk over you and not listen.  The situation will be worse than when you started. If the lights are not on, make no further attempts at verbal resolution.  Respond politely and accurately to all requests for information and float above all attempts to ignite you into defense and debate.

 Your boss has just shown you what needs to be cleaned up in your vibration for you to move forward in this life.  You don’t have a Frankenstein boss; you have a Frankenstein vibration surrounding the issue of bosses. Lucky you, you have just clearly identified how to float downstream, where all your abundance awaits you – who wants to stay in the same old stuck place – congratulations!  Freedom is around the corner…… with love to my dear friend Victor!

Gain Number Four: Financial Flexibility

This blog will:

1) Remind everyone that celebrating the gains is equally as important as learning to handle life challenges.

2) Talk about “Gain Number Four”. I am celebrating my gains in order of priority. See previous blogs.

I am celebrating having more flexibility in my financial life.  After a period of being caught in a financial pinch and being under employed, I designed a new career, and finagled free trainings and certifications in the field.  After visualizing for a year on receiving a specific job,  I was offered a position by one of the nation’s largest and financially promising companies.  I opted, for the moment, to remain self employed and keep my options open. It should not be unnoticed by interested readers that this has occurred over the past two years, officially designated as a depression - or close to it.

Primarily, I used the Law of Attraction and the Sedona Method to sculpt this new future for myself.  My blog describes the practical application of these tools in my daily efforts, and I also provide coaching on these subjects.


For coaching assistance:  deborah@deborahbird.com

Celebrating Gains: Gain Number Three

This blog will:
1) Remind everyone that celebrating the gains is equally as important as learning to handle life challenges.
2) Talk about “Gain Number Three”. I am celebrating my gains in order of priority. See previous blogs.
3) Discuss a gain I am experiencing from applying the Sedona Method to release resistance on the subjects of home and community.

Mary by rosebush - She is an expert
gardner

Steve is a talented
potter & ceramicist

Today I celebrate making some progress on my previous releasing efforts, where I addressed the issues of community and home. Releasing resistance is a technique where we allow negative thoughts to wash through us, as opposed to latching onto us and establishing roots. In recent blogs (Aug. 4th and May 24th), I have spent some time releasing on life challenges that have surfaced around the issue of living space. Completely unplanned, I have stumbled into a happy family scene with my friends Mary and Steve.

Some people are just born generous, and Steve and Mary are two of them. I have plopped down in their house, because I need accommodations while I work on a horse project here in Sedona. They have welcomed me on short notice with open arms, assisting me with my cause. Their home is cozy, serene, clean and well organized, providing a nurturing atmosphere for massaging my positive outlook on the world. Our days are full of shared meals, hiking in the sculptured mountains of Sedona and laptop sessions exchanging digital media revelations. Thanks Mary and Steve for this excursion into domestic tranquility and for generally being great friends.

Disease Is A Springboard To Abundance

This is a story about:
1) Experiencing all the specific, documentable symptoms of a recurring disease.
2) Explaining these symptoms within the context of the Law of Attraction.
3) Using the information gained to springboard into a highly energized state.

I choose to listen to a Sedona Method seminar this morning as my morning program. While listening to the recording I begin to experience the symptoms of hypothyroidism and the more I listen the worse it gets. Hypothyroidism is one of the more difficult diseases to deal with because it sends an army of men to your mind that search out every possible memory and piece of data in your present experience and interpret it in the most negative light possible. It also causes extreme lethargy and fatigue, making doing anything about it difficult. It also removes will, making wanting to do anything about it difficult.

My immediate reaction is to go to bed and sleep for a couple of hours. At this point in life, I have been tested for hypothyroidism so many times that I now can very accurately guess what the levels will be based on how I feel. In short, if you know any doctors, tell them you know someone who has a TSH level of 20, at which point they will look at you quizzically and say: “Has this person had a heart attack yet?” or “Is this person still living?”.

Today my TSH level is 20 and sliding. Since releasing (see blog entry May 2, 2010: Putting Our Processor To Work) took a long time to take effect the last time this condition surfaced, I decided to apply the Law of Attraction instead. I have to be direct, blunt and factual as the meltdown is spiraling:

1) Step One: Quickly do something that feels good and pleasurable to divert my mind. I opt for taking a shower and then going to a nice outdoor coffee shop and sitting in the sun.
2) Step Two: Be honest about what is, don’t try to cut it off, which in my case looked something like this: “Here we go again. I feel horrible. I am so tired of this.”
3) Step Three: Review the fundamentals of The Law of Attraction.
a. This Law states that my emotions are an indicator of whether or not I am allowing myself to go higher expanded states of well being that already exist.
b. Law of Attraction states that the only reason we aren’t automatically living in these states nonstop is due to the resistance that we create with our minds. In this example, resistance will increase if I mind gnash on how sick am.
c. Bad emotions mean I am not going to these higher states, also known as the vortex. All I have to do is to get up to speed with this new higher vibration, I will enter the vortex, and I will feel okay. I have serious doubts that this is going to work, but I am determined to carry out the steps none-the-less.
4) Step Three: Begin the Focus Wheel: Find one ray of hope to focus on however small or distant and enhance it little bit by little bit: “This illness is good, because –if I believe the Law of Attraction, and I do - it means I have just increased my vibration, probably by listening to the Sedona Method recording. All I have to do now is to find some ever increasingly pleasant topics to focus on. The weather in Sedona is picture perfect now. Its bright, sunny, with a nice spring breeze. The coffee shop has outdoor seating and I have enough space to work. I am so glad I have a laptop. My technical skills are really picking up. I am getting really good at doing blogs and web pages. I am learning so much about how to heal physically, emotionally and financially. I have so much to share with others. I have already experienced a significant increase in my financial situation. I can feel the increased abundance continuing on all levels.”
5) Step Five: Get in the vortex and milk it. I am now in the vortex, the higher state of well being that naturally exists for me and for everyone. Milking it consists of celebrating the goal or accomplishment, however big or small. In my case it goes like this: “Wow, I did it. I feel better. I can feel my energy increasing. This process is miraculous. I am so lucky to know about this information and to focused enough to apply it in such effective ways.”

During the process of the focus wheel, I am vaguely aware of the conversations going on around me at the café. One table inhabited by a bicycle club just finishing a morning ride. A key figure at the table adamantly states his position on networking and derides his co-rider for not having read a certain book. He moves on to tell a story about an immigration snafu that some of his German family members experienced, degrading every person and law they encountered. At a second table, a man fiercely degrades people for thinking that prejudice still exists in America. My knee jerk reaction is to judge their negative speak. But, since I believe in the Law of Attraction, I must confess to myself that I attracted them into my sphere. I breath into the need to judge and know that I must gently float with their conversation, not becoming entangled.

As the afternoon goes on, my energy levels soar. I am completely focused with my work, which today is technically oriented –not my strong suit. But please look in the upper right hand corner of my blog and you will see that I have added a Buy Now Button to my blog, which allows coaching customers to pay online for my services. Not only that, it has a drop down menu! Bill Gates here I come!

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