Three Top Reasons We Don't Achieve Our Goals and Three Workable Solutions.
In today's world just about everyone is schooled in some form of goal setting, combined with visualization. Certainly, after the movie "The Secret" many people have a Vision Board - visual pictures representing our personal and business goals. Virtually all Olympiads receive training in visualizing their successes and accelerating progress in their physical trainings, even athletes who come from conservative backgrounds. Now days, visualization and using the power of the mind to achieve goals is now just about as common place as apple pie. So if we know about all these tools and we are using them, why are we sometimes not achieving what we set out to do?
The reasons are threefold:
1. Resistance: Any mental process that is something less than a glowing mind vision of our highest success is resistance. The best way to understand resistance is to set a high, unrealistic goal like: I am going to have $1 million dollars in my bank account by tomorrow. Go ahead and close your eyes right now, and silently say this goal to yourself. Let what you have said sink in, and then ask yourself how you feel. Most people will say something like: "I don't feel like it will come true", "I feel undeserving of this amount of money", "This is too short of a time span to expect results". All of these thoughts are resistance, and they can come up frequently with many of the goals we set. The solution is to release the resistance. Solution: Several good ways to do this are Hypnotherapy, The Sedona Method, EFT, and many forms of breath work. You can search around on Youtube and find demonstrations of these techniques, or look in the next section below for one good example.
2. My Mind Is A Powerful Creation Tool: In between our Vision Board sessions and visualizations, the mind rolls on, rambling, and picking up burrs along the way. If left to its own devices, the mind will default to negative thinking 80% of the time, picking up so many burrs that it turns into a ball of tumbleweed, running rampantly and erratically across our life goals, scratching them, and erasing them.
Solution: Here are some tips for harnessing this wild beast in between your visualizations:
a. Prepaving: Set your day when you wake up. Get out of bed 15 minutes earlier and think of something positive when you wake up. Look at your day and form exciting and productive outcomes for each meeting and project throughout the day. If you have a meeting that day, you might say something like: "I will feel light and happy throughout the whole meeting. I will sit next to all the right people, making just the right connections to forward my financial and business goals".
b. Short circuit negative thoughts: When the mind wants to chomp down on some criticism of someone else, or replay a past unpleasant experience, simply say to yourself over and over again: "My mind is a powerful creation tool". Say it slowly, distinctly and focus on every word. When you say this in the face of the unpleasantness you are salivating to rehash, logic will tell you that rehashing it will then created more of the unpleasantness. This is usually enough to stop the spin.
c. Appreciation: Once you experience relief, then immediately find something to appreciate. The key to appreciation is to find something that you REALLY appreciate. For example, it is much better to appreciate the fact that you are a good car mechanic and can take care of most of your own car needs, then it is to try to stretch the appreciation to something you think you SHOULD be able to appreciate like your business flourishing, when in reality you had a few good months, but more bad months.
3. Lack of Positive Emotion When Visualizing On Goals: If you can figure out how to imbue each one of your goals with emotions, do so. Love is the most powerful emotion. If your goal is to make more money, imbue it with love like this: "My partner and I can use this money to take nicer more intimate vacations together", or "I have more time to spend with kids or grand kids", or "I can now give money to help build schools in under served areas".
Many blessings to you in the New Year
b. Short circuit negative thoughts: When the mind wants to chomp down on some criticism of someone else, or replay a past unpleasant experience, simply say to yourself over and over again: "My mind is a powerful creation tool". Say it slowly, distinctly and focus on every word. When you say this in the face of the unpleasantness you are salivating to rehash, logic will tell you that rehashing it will then created more of the unpleasantness. This is usually enough to stop the spin.
c. Appreciation: Once you experience relief, then immediately find something to appreciate. The key to appreciation is to find something that you REALLY appreciate. For example, it is much better to appreciate the fact that you are a good car mechanic and can take care of most of your own car needs, then it is to try to stretch the appreciation to something you think you SHOULD be able to appreciate like your business flourishing, when in reality you had a few good months, but more bad months.
3. Lack of Positive Emotion When Visualizing On Goals: If you can figure out how to imbue each one of your goals with emotions, do so. Love is the most powerful emotion. If your goal is to make more money, imbue it with love like this: "My partner and I can use this money to take nicer more intimate vacations together", or "I have more time to spend with kids or grand kids", or "I can now give money to help build schools in under served areas".
Many blessings to you in the New Year
